How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship

No matter how perfect your marriage or relationship is, you are going to find yourself in your fair share of fights. Don’t think because you get into an argument that your relationship is flawed, however. Arguments and fights are normal and in fact, can be healthy at times as it shows that people are not afraid to speak their mind and stand up for themselves. That being said, if these fights are ongoing and you do not find a proper resolution to them, they can quickly turn into something worse. Knowing how to tackle these fights when they occur is a skill that you and your significant other will have to develop if you plan on making your relationship work. Here are some of the most common relationship problems that every couple goes through.

Lack of Trust

We are all human and we all have emotions that we have to learn how to control. One of the most difficult things that we deal with however is a sense of trust. Trusting your significant other is extremely important for the success of the relationship as you can’t always be worrying about what they are going to do. Lack of trust can manifest itself in many ways. The most common is when one person is worried when the other person is away from them, thinking that they are cheating on them or doing something else. This lack of trust then grows as the person tries to snoop through the other’s phone and tries to asks questions to learn what is happening. This is one of the most popular break-up reasons as it stems from a breakdown in communication. Trusting your significant other is one of the most important things you can do in a relationship and if you aren’t ready to trust someone and believe them when they say things, you aren’t ready yet for one. It can be difficult, especially if you have a history of getting lied to in the past, but in a new relationship, you have to give the person the trust that they deserve.

Communication Breakdowns

The lack of trust people have for each other generally stems from a complete breakdown in communications. Since you are in a relationship you are no longer living a solo life. You now have someone that you have to care for on a daily basis. Check-in with the other person and ask them how they are feeling and if there is anything that is wrong. Where communication breakdowns really become dangerous is when people are being passive-aggressive towards each other. One person asks if everything is alright and the other angrily responds, “I’m fine, it’s nothing”. The lack of communication and animosity here grows until one person explodes on the other. Communicate with your significant other and make sure they always know how you are feeling.

Prioritizing Something Else

When you are in a relationship, the other person wants to know that you care and that you are thinking about them. If you are prioritizing another aspect of your life and completely neglecting them, they are going to feel unwanted and hurt. Look to put aside a bit of time each day so that you can talk with them and spend time with them. Also, try to find a way to involve them in your passions and the things that you care about. By taking the time to involve them in your passions, you will show them that you really care about them.

No Boundaries

No boundaries is similar to the same lack of trust issue. While you two care for each other and are bringing your lives together, you do have to be able to have your own time. As mentioned earlier, involving your significant other in your own passions is great, but you will definitely need some time to yourself as well. If you and your significant other are constantly spending time with each other and not giving each other a break, you are eventually going to hit a breaking point and fight over something. Give each other space and respect the fact that they might be going to see friends or someone else one night. Trust and boundaries are extremely important if you want a relationship to succeed.

These are a few of the most common things that cause major fights in relationships. While the fights can be extreme, just know that these things are fixable if you both are willing to communicate and work on it. A relationship does involve two people coming together, but it is also two unique and distinct people with differing personalities. Differing opinions will occur, it is just about finding a way to peacefully express them.